So, 2009 is the year of fun right? And at the moment fun = me going out and enjoying myself with awesome people. I’m really loving being social and am finally over my hang ups of being a mother and being young and missing out on my youth and modelling good behaviour to the kid and all that. Or at least trying to be. Perhaps there’s another post on that… I’ve been thinking about it for a while.
But it turns out there are still those with archaic views alive and well in this day and age. A while ago a friend asked me “when are feminists going to stop?” and you know what? I realised today that until people stop saying stupid crap like the guy said last night, that’s when feminists are going to stop. (Well… that and a whole bunch of other stuff of course!)
Last night I was having a fabulous time out with a few people from work and a friend of one of the guys had joined us. He’d been hanging out with us for a few hours and we had moved on to another pub to have some food. I think I must have made mention of my babysitter as I checked my phone to see if any dramas had ensued (Jute was on the job… I love living with my sister!). He looked confused at my comment and said “Aren’t you too young to have a kid?” If I had a freaking dollar for every time I am asked that question I would’ve been able to shout the whole of bloody JJ Murphy’s a round. Anywayyy… I came out with my standard reply which is “Yes. I am too young to have a kid.” Questions followed and my responses revealed the usual information: that she’s four, that there’s no Dad around, that I’m trying to regain my social life… blah blah. And apparently that was an opening for some pretty serious judgement: “Just make sure she isn’t neglected.”
Isn’t neglected? Excuse me? Because I’m having fun, my child is being neglected? Dude, she ain’t sitting in the car outside with a can of fanta and a packet of chips!
Man alive. I fear for any woman that potentially starts a family with him.
And as if that weren’t bad enough, he uttered the words that always invoke a sly smile when parents hear them: “I’m not a parent but I’ve been around children enough that I understand what it’s like.”